The latest book by Dr Margot Sunderland, offers a wealth of tools and techniques to empower practitioners and parents to connect to children and teenagers through conversation, in life changing ways. Packed with creative possibilities, and illustrated with numerous ‘conversations’, this book can be returned to again and again whilst helping children and teenagers work through any painful life issue, past or present. The book also contains photocopiable worksheets. A ‘must-buy’ for any adult who want the conversations they have with children and teenagers to genuinely help, and to matter.
The incredible effects of Love, Nurture and Play on your child's development (original title – The Science of Parenting)
This is the first practical parenting book to give you the facts, not the fiction on the best way to bring up your child, essential for any parent. Based on over 700 scientific studies into children’s development, award-winning author and child psychotherapist Dr. Margot Sunderland explains how to develop your child’s potential to the full.
This manual contains a series of structured, easy to do picture exercises to help people of all ages express, communicate and deal more effectively with their emotions in everyday life. Providing a series of photocopiable illustrations, the book is a source of effective readymade material.
This book is designed for professionals to help children, teenagers and adults alike to explore, communicate and learn more about themselves in light of their relationships and so to improve their quality of life by improving their relationship life. Many children, teenagers and adults never sit down to reflect on their relationships. As a result, they can endlessly repeat destructive relationship patterns, pick people who are bad for them, stay in deadening relationships, or destroy the lovely relationships they do have.
Helping Teenagers to Talk about their Feelings.
This book aims to empower people to have thoughtful, reflective conversations with teenagers about their life experiences. The book is full of tools and techniques for what to say and how to be when talking to teenagers, underpinned by the latest research, psychology and neuroscience in adolescent development.
(Edited by Margot Sunderland)
This book is a vital resource for all professionals and parents who seek to reach and help teenagers who struggle with anger, anxiety and low self-esteem. It contains vital theory and practice, tools, techniques and case studies from eminent contributors with extensive hands-on experience of working with troubled teenagers.
This practical handbook begins with the philosophy and psychology underpinning the therapeutic value of story telling. It shows how to use story telling as a therapeutic tool with children and how to make an effective response when a child tells a story to you. It covers issues such as:
This guidebook is designed to help children who hurt, hit, bite, smash, kick, shout, scream or who are out of control, hyperaroused or hyperactive; children who can only discharge their angry feelings in verbal or physical attacks, rather than being able to reflect on what they feel, children who are controlling and punitive and regularly defy authority, children who have been diagnosed with a conduct disorder and children who commit cold acts of cruelty, cannot trust, have stopped looking for love or approval The book will be a vital resource for any child professional who works with children locked in rage or hate, to understand underlying causes and so to engage with the child from an informed empathic position.
This guidebook is designed to help children who don't like themselves or feel there is something fundamentally wrong with them have been deeply shamed or bullied at home or at school, feel defeated by life, fundamentally unimportant, unwanted or unlovable. The book designed to enable teachers, parents and professionals to understand and acknowledge the child’s painful feelings and to respond effectively.
This guidebook is designed to help children who are suffering from the pain of loss or separation from someone they love deeply have had a parent, relative or important friend leave or die have lost someone they love, but have never really mourned are suffering from separation anxiety are adopted or fostered children and miss their birth parent terribly have lost their home, their country, their school, their family as they have known it (separation or divorce).
This is a guidebook to help children who are insecure or worry too much; suffer from phobias or nightmares; find it difficult to let go and have fun; have suffered a trauma; are worryingly good or seem like little adults"; use order and routine as a way of coping with 'messy' feelings; retreat into dullness as a way of managing being in the world; have developed obsessive-compulsive behaviour in order to ward overwhelming or unbearable feelings.
This guidebook is designed to help children who: bottle up their feelings; are trying to manage their too painful feelings by themselves; do not let themselves cry, protest or say that they are scared; are living with too many unresolved painful emotions from the past; have experienced disturbing, overwhelming or confusing life events, which they have been unable to think through or feel through properly; are suffering from unmourned grief.
This is a guidebook to help children who: worry a lot experience the world as an unsafe place, suffer from phobias, obsessions or nightmares, are scared to tell someone that they are scared, know or have known a terrible loneliness, feel insignificant in a world of adult giants, feel defeated by life and need help in being assertive, feel so impotent that their only way to feel any potency is to be mute.
This is a guidebook to help children who Have been given too little encouragement to follow their hopes and dreams. Are too despondent or defeated to go after their hopes or their dreams. Are too busy surviving, so hopes and dreams are a luxury they cannot afford. Think that hopes and dreams are just for other people. Do not follow their dreams because they are too afraid of failing. Are following somebody else's star. Only dream small dreams for themselves, from a place of shame or fear.
(Storybook for children how have lost someone they love) Eric is a sand dragon who loves the sea very much. Each day, he watches it going out and coming back. His sea is beautiful indeed to him. But one day, the sea goes out and does not come back. Eric waits and waits, but it does not come back. So he falls on the sand in terrible pain. It feels to him as if he has lost everything. After many bleak days, Eric sees a little wild flower. It is dying.
Nevermind always carries on, best foot forward, no fussing, no anger, no tears. Each time something horrible happens to him he just tucks his feelings away and carries on with his life. This way of dealing with the bad stuff that happens to him works less and less well as time goes by.
(A story for children with low self-esteem) Ruby hates herself so much that she often feels more like a piece of rubbish than a little girl. She gets bullied. Sometimes, Ruby feels so miserable that she wants to sleep and sleep and never wake up again. Then one day, Ruby meets Dot the lunchtime lady, When Ruby feels Dot's kindness and understanding, something warm happens in Ruby's tummy. Over time, Dot helps Ruby to move from self-hate to self-respect.
(A Story to Help Teenagers with Anger and Alienation)Simon Asher, known as Smasher, is good at being bad. He bullies, breaks into cars, carries a knife, gets into fights, and lots more. At best Smasher is heading for trouble and, at worst, jail. He is full of anger because of all the bad things that have happened in his life.. One day he comes face-to-face with a strange presence who takes him on some horrid journeys and some wonderful journeys. As a result, Smasher realises he is at a major crossroads and has some serious choices to make. Does he destroy everything in his life, or think again and change direction in time?
(A story for children who yearn for someone they love) Frog is very much in love with the moon because he is sure that once she smiled at him. So now he spends all his time thinking and dreaming about her. He waits and waits for her to smile at him again, so much so that the moon becomes his obsession, and he is unable to enjoy life.
(A Story for Children Who are Anxious or Obsessional) Willy is an anxious boy who experiences the world as a very unsafe, wobbly place where anything awful might happen at any time. Joe, the boy next door, is too ordered and tidy to be able to ever really enjoy life.
(A story for children who have hardened their hearts or become bullies) Bipley is a warm cuddly creature, but someone has broken his heart. He feels so hurt that he decides it is just too painful to ever love again. When he meets some big tough Honks in the wood, they teach him how to harden his heart so that he doesn't have to feel hurt.
(A story for fearful children) One day Teenie Weenie finds himself in a scrumbly screechy place. It is full of noises and crashes and things that swoop and scratch. The worse it gets, the smaller Teenie Weenie feels. After a while, he feels so small that the tiniest insect tries to eat him up. Teenie Weenie feels terrified and desperately alone. But after a while along strolls a Wip-Wop bird who invites Teenie Weenie to come and have a chocolate muffin in his tree house.